I’ve resisted writing about selfies because, live and let live, right? It’s something I preach often, so why not allow others to indulge their narcissistic tendencies. Ok, let me calm down before I incite the ire of the masses.
I’m really ok with them. I remember my first boyfriend telling me I look like (pre-meltdown) Chris Brown in a selfie I sent to him. Obviously he was a liar, but bygones.
In an age where cellphones have become receptacles of really great photos, are we diluting that sense of photography? I think so. Like I said, I’d be a hypocrite to criticise, but my other favourite saying equally applies here – everything in moderation. I recently had an argument with a friend who said that vegetables cannot be bad, and I said no – anything done in excess can be bad for you – water, vegetables, exercise and even love.
This could be the YOLO generation (I know that reference is SO 2013, but the theory still applies, ok!) and its way of thinking today. But like a friend who posted a twerk video – I swear – and then later deleted it because, like I asked him, “Don’t you want to be employed?”
I try to be careful when I tweet or write blogs. Not so much that it will bore my readers or myself, but we live in a connected world where everything can come back, and will. Karma.
Selfies are not bad, but when you take about ten per day, you start to look like you have nothing else that you think is worthy of taking a photo. You also look like you think everyone wants to see you. They don’t. At least not all the time. I promise you, this is true.
I heard a story from a colleague who went to an African country where she was prevented from taking photos at the local market. To me, the customer is king and should be allowed to do pretty much what they want. But the people at the market believe that that is essentially theft. To go even further, photography is seen as a thief of the soul – whenever you get snapped, a little bit is taken from your inner light (makes sense when you consider the world of celebs). So when you selfie, you are willingly giving of yourself.
We live in an age where technology rules. We also live in an age where ‘adapt or die’ is an adage of the times. Whether in work, relationships, war and life in general, those who resist change are the ones who watch while the train of life leaves you behind.
I saw a spoiler from Game of Thrones. No, it wasn’t that Khaleesi is awesome! That we know. I also wont share what the spoiler was. It’s a huge one, for the other three of you who haven’t seen it. But I didn’t want to see it. I was minded my own business and just scrolling through dreadful Facebook, and boom! There it was. My problem was not so much the spoiler. I’m over it as I write, but at the time it was a big deal – and that is the problem. As much as it is a part of us, technology has become one with us. People speak of going on holiday and switching themselves off from the wires, as if this were an achievement.
I was in a newsroom and the story discussed was how to prevent spoilers. There are even apps that alert you to spoilers. There are also ways to block spoiler updates on social media platforms. While I wonder how to avoid seeing the abundance of selfies, it makes me wonder, why we even need to prevent or block anything? People on my Twitter are suddenly acting as if spoilers are not bad. The sentiment being presented goes something like this “It’s MY platform and it’s a SOCIAL media servicer and if you don’t like it, YOU can look away…” which I’m ok with, but these are the same people who get upset when they get unfollowed. Technology has made us crazy.
If this world is as connected as it is, surely others should take heed and be considerate. Or it’s just me. But my final thought is, with the prevalence of social media and the nature of the internet, others never forget. So be careful. Many people might have an “I don’t care” attitude, but how do you want to be perceived, and more importantly, remembered?
<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>