Just another WordPress.com site

Archive for the ‘Religion and Spirituality’ Category

Lessons from Marco

Today is pretty much a copy and paste job, but so worth it. Marco is one of my dear friends, and yesterday on his 23rd birthday, he decided to share 23 lessons on his Twitter. The nature of our friendship is wholly inappropriate, but all about love, so I’m trying my best to not slip in a genital joke here, seeing as he kept it so classy. He’s also an avid reader, and regular follower f this blog. So this is a well-deserved shout-out. When I phoned to wish him, he said that he realized that some of them were clichés, but I say “Boo you whore!”, they are fantastic!

You all know that I’m all about a good lesson. So here are the 23 lessons from Marco:

#23 dont drink more than one cup of good filter coffee.

#22 throw caution to the wind… but beware the wind doesnt blow in the wrong direction…

#21 age is really only a number no matter what ignorant people tell you. But…act your age. When its done its gone

#20 give. Give until you cant. Then give some more.

#19 be aware of who you are in and outside of what others perceive you to be. You are your own ambassador.

#18 Take a moment. Breath. Theres more to life than notifications.

#17 find someone that you can trust. It takes a lot of bruising at first but once you find that person… never let go.

#16 family is everything. Find yours wherever you need to and live for them.

#15 be nice. There are no points for winning arguments. Even when youre right.

#14 dont diet. Your body is yours take care of. The key is balance.

#13 work smart. Hardworkers usually get a lot done. Smart workers get it done right.

#12 dont compare yourself. Everyone has their own journey and yours is up to you by you FOR you.

#11 money isnt the root of all evil. Allowing it to rule you is.

#10 dont burn bridges. The world is getting smaller and constantly turning. Some day that friend will be needed.

#9 take care of something. A plant a pet a family member. Take the attention away from you.

#8 try. Whenever things look out of reach keep trying. Failure is only a guide to the right destination. Success.

#7 silence is mandatory. You need time to reflect before you speak or sleep or leave. It makes interacting easier.

#6 find yourself before you go looking for love. You kinda need the one before the other.

#5 fads never last. You dont have to own everything to OWN EVRRYTHING.

#4 the truest beauty is found beyond the chiselled features of good bone structure. Focus on what matters.

#3 love deeply love truly but never love freely. Not everyone you befriend is friendly. Take some time to forge bonds

#2 dont take life too seriously. Its transitory so shits bound to happen. Let it. Then learn from it.

MarcoWorld @ph03nikz  ·  15h

#1 Do unto others as…you would LIKE them to do unto you… Even when/if they dont. Especially 🙂

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Advertisements

On Friendship, Family and how to avoid loss

Everyone goes through heartbreak and betrayal, and whether you’re talking about a family member or a friend, it is essentially the same feeling. Even a death can seem to many as a betrayal. And in the case of a breakup, or a feud, when you just know that you have lost what you had with someone, you realise that there is no greater pain than losing someone who is still alive. (Although I respect the opinion that death is also a great loss to many)

This is my way to avoid this feeling, which is essentially a consolation. Think of a field – it could be football (American, or soccer) but the concept is the same. It is rectangle in shape with a half-way line. The line is the important part. Now think of yourself on one side, and the person on the other, except you are both on the same team. This might confuse people who are so geared towards society’s obsession with competition. On this field, however, you can only go as far as the middle line. The only point in which you are face to face is at the half-way line.

We all want the best for the people in our lives. In my case this translates to me being too pushy and driving them away. Dammit. But we can, and should, only go as far as the half-way line, and then be content with that.

The Messiah complex is absolutely detrimental to a relationship. You cannot save someone. It is as simple as that. I’ve always loved this quote from Kahlil Gibran, on children, who says:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

This, I believe, can be applied to relationships to all people in our lives.

I use something on Twitter that I call #ProbablyPlagiarised, although in this instance I know that I have heard various versions of this saying. Life is essentially a series of moments. People come in and out of our lives all the time. You holding on to a time that has passed is not being true to you current self, state and situation(s) and those around you with whom you are meant to be exchanging energies. .

If you think of your journey as a series of highways, with each of us inevitably intersecting at some point, would you not rather ride alongside others and arrive at your respective destinations safely, or would you want to crash? Unfortunately for many people, this analogy is all too real and the crash is sometimes quite literal.

Remember, you can’t save them. You shouldn’t have to. Their failure is not your failure. Give your love, then be content that you gave it. That’s all that you really can do.

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Life Lessons from… Angry Birds?

What are some of the strangest places you’ve found a life lesson? They are there, waiting for us to open our eyes, minds and hearts to them. For me, it is two games that I’ve been playing on the tablet. In particular, Angry Birds and Subway Surf. They are real time killers, and super addictive in their simplicity. I doubt the creators meant for idiot bloggers to look for meaning in their creations, but… So be it.

You really do not need to have played these games – the general idea is there. But for those who absolutely want to know what they are about, it’s simple. Subway Surf is a guy running along, picking up coins as he goes. He has to dodge obstacles and there are daily challenges.

Angry Birds is a lot more popular, with its equally simple concept. You launch little birds, who are very angry-looking (get it?!), at pigs, and later monkeys, to destroy them for points. Play with extreme caution. I repeat, very addictive!

Image

There they are.

You may not always get what you want, but life goes on regardless – Do the best with what you have. Some of the birds come with special abilities. The yellow ones can fly fast; the big beige one can drop an egg bomb and the parrots are weird and flappy. They are all useful and exceptional in their own ways, but you do not get to choose them. You’re given the hand you’re dealt and you have to make the most of it. Complaining about getting the wrong birds? Sure, go ahead. Let me know how that works for you.

Sometimes it doesn’t matter what tools you have, because you may not always need them – So with all the above abilities of the angry birds, it may seem as if you have everything you need, but sometimes that may not be the right thing for you. Just because you can drop that bomb does not always mean that you should. Crashing into the scaffolding with just the bird was enough and brought down the whole structure, destroying all the pigs (I swear you need to play the game to get it). Oftentimes we think that we need to have the best of everything to complete us, when in fact we need very little.

If you do something long enough, you will get the hang of it – I said something on Facebook that, I was told, was particularly insightful (if I do say so myself). It goes: “If fighting is all you ever know, it is all you will ever do”. Someone even suggested it was Hallmark card-worthy. That may have been pushing it, but whatever, I like it. Well, just as in life, where we repeat the same patterns over and over hoping for the best, we tend to miss the part where we are supposed to learn from repetition. Change it up, throw that bird towards the far end instead of the first pig, try something new.

And over at Subway Surfer…

Image

Surfing trains was never this fun.

As monotonous as the journey may seem, there will be surprises, and rewards. Stay prepared – If you lose focus just because you’re bored or because it’s taking too much hard work and focus to be committed to the cause (I may be taking this game a little too seriously. Just a bit…). So I’m running along because I had spent all my coins on Mystery Boxes because it’s like a lucky draw – you never know what’s going to be inside – and I got bored. Guess what, losing focus made me pass a key. A key is like a free life. I was not obedient and I lost out. Luckily  the game, like a lot in life, is cyclical and it came back around and I got a second chance. How many of us get second chances and we waste it?

If you can’t get what you want, you could always buy your way in –  It’s true. You work hard for your money, so why not get to spend it? As long as it’s earned the honest way (and not bought via some cheating shortcut) then who is anyone to tell you otherwise?  But,

the reward will not be as sweet – I may as well have gone for the cliché  grand slam. However, it is true. One of the challenges was “to beat your own high score”, and because my score was something over 1,000,000, it was proving pretty darn difficult. But I forgot about it and stopped checking the score and playing to beat it. I just played and zoned out and had fun again. Boom! Score beaten.

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Help or hurt? – The spirit voice

It’s been a while since I’ve posted something like this, and I had a spark of a thought that got me back here. I recently hosted a vegan lunch. Four of the eight guests were vegans, so I thought it easier to just go that route, plus it would have been a real challenge.

The reviews were good! Mostly positive. I did a potluck-style lunch with things to pick at. It made me wonder why I don’t eat (mostly) healthy more often…

“If you aren’t helping, you’re hurting” – I recently said this to someone with a very dense ego. I’ve noticed it for a while, because I saw parts of my personality in his. Ironically enough, we share a star sign.

But now, back to the food. Two years ago at my friend’s 21st birthday dinner, he made the best spread imaginable – chunky humus with preserved red bell pepper for starters, then roasted lamb and potatoes and brinjal atchar (I think. After a few bites of something tasty I tend to not care what I consume), with chocolate mousse for dessert. I was in heaven, and of course went for seconds, and then thirds.

The next day I went to a gardening place with a friend, and had no idea that the restaurant served a huge seafood platter that we just couldn’t resist. While everyone else at our table ate something of a decent size, he and I shared this fishy platter and I unfortunately lived to regret it.

The point of all this? It’s coming.  I couldn’t move. Ok, that’s a little dramatic. I went home and was in bed for a bit. THEN I couldn’t move. I was up all night, not sleeping at all, trying to find a comfortable position to digest all the food. You see, I didn’t need to eat breakfast that morning after my lamb and roast potatoes binge. I didn’t need to eat the seafood platter. I could have opted for something smaller and would not have been in pain because my digestive tract was at capacity.

The problem is that I knew all this, and then still chose to ignore it. A friend who was hurt very badly by someone tweeted yesterday that he called his ex and then realised why they broke up in the first place. Point is he KNEW what the outcome would be, yet he still went ahead and did it anyway, knowing it would hurt. In his case, it wasn’t hurt as much as an annoying reminder.

The symptom known as hope is the leading cause of the human condition. It is what makes us unique in the animal kingdom, but also what makes us weak and so vulnerable.

We know what’s bad for us and what feels good, at that moment, are completely synchronous. Whether it’s heartache, or heartburn, the feeling is often the same – lingering, painful and always preventable. Remember, either it does or it doesn’t. Whether it’s what you do with your body, or what you put in it, always listen to the voice within, and rather help yourself, than hurt.

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Aside

How to live like it’s your last day

It’s something we’ve all experienced – attend a funeral, or hear of someone who died young and in the prime of their life. Maybe someone died at an old age having not lived a fulfilled life (It gets less macabre, I promise).

Well, why is it that we say that we are going to live better and not be bound by life’s restrictions? Why is it only after deaths, or other traumatic experiences (divorce, heartache, betrayal, loss ) that we get these surges of inspiration, only to fall back into routine?

JAW’s got your back. These are my tips to live like it’s your last day:

First of all, people who have survived near-death experiences have spoken about a shift afterwards. I’ve read about a feeling of freedom and infinity, because they had nothing left to lose. They saw the end. This is essentially a list about how to make the most of your time, and not look back and regret any of it.

That H-word: this one goes first because of how often we’re confronted with it. H-a-p-p-y. After being confronted with “But what is happiness? How would I even know how it feels or when I am happy?” I’ve had a think over this. Besides the deeper issues with people who ask that, it’s a fair question. So I go with “Do what feels good, without hurting yourself, or others”.

Therefore, speeding around a racetrack to get your speed fix – YES.

Speeding down a highway where you could kill someone – wrong!

Drugs – feel good, but bad for you.

But do dive in! : this is a jawonthefloor amendment I use on myself often when I want to lounge around, or mope: Wake up, get up, dress up, show up; and if it’s necessary, throw up. The last one is silliness, unless your’e drunk, but that’s another post on its own. Life is short, it’s about doing things and experiencing. Your bed and those DVD’s will be there when you get back. And it will make you appreciate them more.

Celebrate: and why shouldn’t you? But not just the big things. Why are we such a cynical society, scared to be pleased with ourselves. When it’s an egoic thing used to mask insecurities and denigrate others, then no, that’s bad.  But if you get through something, then give yourself the recognition.

I speak really fast, and sometimes my thoughts bottleneck and my speech is jumbled and disjointed. Whenever i present something publicly in a coherent and eloquent way, you better believe I’m going to limber up to pat myself on the back.

Your accomplishments are your own; own them!

Break the rules (where you can): but remember the first bit of of advice on this post. If it doesn’t hurt you, or anyone else, why not break a rule or two?

I used to be bound by too many of these little buggers. One example, when dating someone wait a certain amount of time before you have sex, or tell them that you love them, because anything shorter or longer will certainly mean something. Or not! Why?

How about do what feels right to you, at the time?

What if… : Don’t allow yourself moments of “what if”. Too many of us look back and wonder what would have happened had [fill in the blank as it suits you].

“But what if there is a talent scout there?” I recently performed at a friend’s birthday party. “Performed” is a very loose description for what we did. My friend Bianca and I did a little homage to female singing duos, with our adapted versions of the final number from Chicago, and Iconopop’s “I don’t care”. Bianca is a performer; I am not. Plus I got spectacularly drunk and fluffed the choreography. Again, a very loose and generous definition of that word.

Point is, we had fun! We dove in. We committed. And had there been a talent scout, one of us would have been a star and not looked back and thought what if we had not done it. Thank you B!

End toxic relationships today: I’ve written previously here about relationships and how tricky they can. They are ambivalent things. Friendships no less so. Have a good think, then do not have a “what if” moment. Forgiveness does not mean that you should have to live with it. You can be friendly, but not friends, or even close. And while we’re at it, avoid narcissists like the plague. This is a useful article on it. But first know yourself and what you want. (If you are nodding, then keep reading). I recently downgraded a friendship when someone showed me their true colours. Trust me, it gets easier.

“STOP” over thinking: this is not an easy one for a lifelong member of Overthinker’s Anonymous like me. But my dear friend Ahmed gave me the best piece of advice I’ve received in a long time. Say STOP. If you can, out loud, and then question your thoughts and your process. Oftentimes, like 99%, they are negative and sometimes unnecessary. Sometimes you don’t even realise. Do you want to waste time doing that if this were your last day?

Final one. Know thyself: As I always stress, I am no expert, so this is just a suggestion that has helped me. You don’t want to get to the end of the road and realise that you did not know yourself. Plus, you living a lie could be wasting a lot of your time, and causing you unnecessary pain.

So here’s the challenge: sit in silence, pray and/meditate. That’s it. If you are not religious, go with meditation, but even prayer need not be religious. It’s about you! Only catch is it has to be consistent. 30 days, or 90 if you are really keen. I guarantee you something will come out of it. Alternatively (or even concurrently) try writing it out. So many people I know are too scared of this because they know that once it’s out, it’s real. Get it out gosh darnit!

So there it is, my comprehensive, but my no means final list. Anyone have anything to add? Anything you disagree with? Always open to comments. Happy living dear readers.

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Consciousness: a reminder

The best intentions are sometimes not enough for us to lose our way. I speak of reminders to maintain consciousness, because in a modern world of distractions, this can be hard to accomplish.

JAW has not been well lately. By that I mean emotionally, especially since he is once again referring to himself in the third person. Ok, enough of that.

I opened my cupboard and saw this

Affirmations

Affirmations

My daily affirmations which have always been there, written in January 2011 and recently forgotten. They read:

  • I am an academic rockstar (arrogant, but true)
  • I am love (came true… twice!!)
  • I am a writer (still riding this one for as long as I can)
  • I am the best version of who I want to be (ahem. Thanks a lot Deepsmack Chop-ram. Many would probably disagree with this. It comes and goes, but read on, it will make sense)
  • I am success (debatable, but I’m going with YES)
  • I am the light (totes new age, right?)

 And this was my reminder: what you are need not be aspired to, because it lives within you. All it needs is some encouragement to grow.

I had another moment of re-revelation recently. I was in a taxi on the way home. This is an extract from my journal:

I forgot to write about this the other day, but strangely enough, the feeling has remained. I was in the taxi on the way home on Friday. The interview went well, I felt well, the weather was well. Well, I had the beginnings of a headache, but it was as if nothing had happened before. The past seemed to fade away, and content and peace filtered in. I was happy, and content and at peace and I was completely aware of it. Nothing else mattered but being there, squashed between two large women, listening to the melodious tune of Xhosa, no one angry or hurt or disappointed, just eager to get home. In that moment, that was where I was meant to be.

The lesson here was another reminder. What we have is what we have. Dare I speak that recent overused adage of the unimaginative: It is what it is? But it is, unfortunately, true. All we need is all we have, because it is what we have. And that is enough. This, of course, goes against the capitalist manifestos of more more more, yet one could ask, where does that stop? Growth never stops. It’s up to you to choose which one, spiritual or material.

Something I’ve been saying of late, which goes against what I believe and is in keeping with how I’ve been feeling, is “I feel ok, for now. Not sure how it will be tomorrow but…” and on and on I go. This was the usual response when friends enquired about me. But why anticipate a time that has yet to arrive?

I am ok now, and that is enough.

  <p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Gallery

Eat. Pray. Forgive: Him, Her and YOU

Never let it be said that I am a hype whore, although my Fomo (a twitter based term that stands for “fear of missing out”) is practically debilitating.

That leads me to finally- FINALLY- reading Eat Pray Love, by Elizabeth Gilbert.

I love it so very much and I haven’t even got to the “Love” section yet. But something struck me as I read (and this is not the time for a Chris Brown joke! Ok, if you must…)

Elizabeth is speaking of a mantra which she says she repeats “700 times” a day, which goes “I will not harbor unhealthy thoughts anymore”. Now this stuck out for me because, as a conscious and enlightened individual (in training. Always in training!), I’m also human and struggle to stay in this state for long. So as I stole this mantra from Liz Gilbert on her journey, I re-realised the power of thoughts.

I tend to veer towards extremes, so when I’m happy, I’m HAPPY and when I’m sad… Well… It’s not pretty.

My new “thing”, or mantra is walking about and saying to myself “You, my dear, are a dynamic bitch and a hot piece of ass!” Try it, it works. And most importantly, it does not involve you diminishing others, or putting yourself in a superior position to others.

So I took it one step further and wrote a letter to one, and to many, to help myself “let go” (a phrase that came up later in the chapter, which I also struggle to do). But letting go, or forgiveness, is key. This again, however, should not be at the expense of others.

Now this is something I’ve harped on about before, but it made sense as Elizabeth spoke of her ex-husband and the ill-feelings between them. Let go, is the message.

But here’s what you need to do after you write your own letter. Visualise yourself reading it – so that’s you, the spirit you, with the “real” or physical, tangible you watching all this from your place of peace and soon-to-be forgiveness. It is what many describe as an out-of-body experience, but at your own willing. It does require a fair amount of inner stillness and setting aside your thoughts to reach this state.

So here’s my letter:

I’m sorry that I couldn’t be everything that you wanted me to be. I’m sorry that I was not sensitive to your plight and struggles. I could have been more empathetic to you. I’m sorry that I have changed, for the worse, and that my changes for the better were not in sync with you, but it’s what I needed to do. I’m sorry when I did not work hard enough. I could have done better, but at the time, it was the best that could have done. I hurt you, and for that I apologise.

I forgive you for hurting me. I forgive you for making it about you, when I also needed you. I forgive you for not seeing within me the kind person I safeguard for fear of being hurt. I forgive you for the things you have done, and sometimes continue to do. You did not know better.

And I forgive myself, because I deserve it.

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Gallery

It has to come out somewhere

“Things we hide in the dark, manifests and festers in the light” – I loved this quote from a friend, and how perfectly it fit in with what I was trying to say in this post.

I recently coined a term known as a “nose fart.” This is when someone pisses you off so much that instead of holding it in, you exhale deeply out your nose. Get it? Like a fart. If you know what a “shart” is, be grateful that I don’t have a cold.

Mildly amusing, I know, but it made me think about how many of us HOLD IT IN. Think of it with regards to actual farting, or in a metaphorical way, but it must come out eventually. How it comes out is up to you as you make the choice. Or for some of us, how we don’t make the choice.

I was speaking to a friend and she said that “it has to manifest itself somewhere.”

I have way too many people in my life who don’t cry. How is it that these are the same people who do not hesitate to hold in their farts in public, yet are too scared to let a little saline drip from their faces?

My Floor Jawers who have been following my ramblings know that I’m all about a good spiritual lesson, and there is no better one than the idea of inner and outer, and how they affect one another. Sure, dressing well makes you feel better for the moment; and drinking alcohol loosens you up for a bit; yes fixing your face and body will bring temporary relief, but where is the end? There is always a turn, and that’s where your bowels come in.

One can only fill a hole so much before it overflows. Think of yourself as that  (w)hole and how you are filling it. Is it with useful, fulfilling, enlightening goodies, or is it muck and mock? Too often I see morbidly obese people on TV who say they have no idea how they got to where they are.  I finally get that now!

I know all about avoidance. I tend to throw myself into fantasy and fiction and read and watch everything I can. Thank gods I discovered consciousness and can do this with that thought of awareness in mind. When people start moving around unaware and without intention, is when unintended and unwelcomed things happen. You may say that you are responsible and know what you are doing, but it is often at the point when it is too late before you realise that the path you were on has diverged from its original trajectory. You see? Farts!

You hold them in, like the tears, or maybe straight forward constipation if it suits you, and then do not realise that you are ill due to your own doing. I am, of course, not advocating for mass release of methane-tainted gas into our atmosphere. That’s the last thing we need. What we do need is for our faces to not strain and frown as we hold in the build-up of what could be something explosive.

Can I take this moment to pat myself on the back for a disgusting and suitably lengthy extended metaphor? Put that in your pipe and smoke it, Deepak Chopra!

“So what do I do now?” I hear you asking me as you crouch at my feet like good lambs. You get it into your head and heart that where you hold it in in one place, it will come out in another. What you think you are suppressing by putting away and locking, will creep up on you, after it had festered and grown.

And… release.

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Gallery

Out of synch, out of life

I know a couple who are happily married, but took forever to get there. Make up, break up, shack up with others, get back together and eventually they have been together for a few years living happily ever after.

They eventually synched up, but how often does this happen? When I meet people from primary school with whom I would spend hours, we now have nothing in common. There is but one friend who has survived and we are so different and at the same time, similar enough to synch up. We work because of honesty and trying to get to the roots of whom and what we are. It’s a daily struggle and sometimes proves futile. Point is to try!

This state of being in and out of synchronicity leads back to people not knowing who they are and not bothering to know either. You cannot fit a plug into any outlet. The prongs have to match up with the receptacles. Now that analogy seems obviously too simplistic, but I think it leads to objectivity.

How many of us are told something, but showed another?

The idea of the “bad boy” springs to mind. The opposite of the knight, he is not chivalrous and always egotistical, using others to dampen feelings of worthlessness. “I want you”, is what they will say, but the ensuing actions are often out of synch, yet we try to force that plug and make it fit. I used the “bad boy” because women don’t seem to conform to this idea. I don’t encounter female players who are as upfront about their behaviour. Again, the extent of how out of synch we are with each other seems to have no limits.

Life can be a challenging course to navigate. Why would you want to be someone else’s challenge? Simplicity is a choice.

A question I often ask myself is “Why are things never simple?” I’m constantly accused of, and freely admit to being too honest and straight forward. When did this become a problem? I seem to do it reasonably well as people seem to know that when I say “Those jeans are not going to work on you” that it is not being said with malice, even when said maliciously. Let love permeate through and it will radiate outwards. Whether others choose to receive this should not be a concern of yours

[I know, I know, not as easy said as it is done AT ALL. I am guilty myself of caring WAY too much about why others don’t get it. But this is a lesson that must be learned over time to safeguards the spirit]

Live a life of lightness and be translucent, not a concrete block. Let your light and love shine through and don’t let the darkness in some hide the light in others.

It is great to think highly of yourself, but what does this mean for your spirit and how you treat and appreciate others? Look at yourself in all dimensions, attractive and unattractive. But never assume that people, who think that they know themselves, truly do. This is often a projection to detract from what they are denying inside. Where do you fit in in the lives of others? Look at yourself, then at them. It is often the hardest thing to admit to.

Actions need to match words. This all goes back to Mama O, Oprah Winfrey who always says “When a man (or someone) shows you their true colours, believe them!” The exclamation was my own because I put up a hand in PRAISE when I say those words.

Know thyself and THEN know others. Look at yourself and don’t just say “I’m an easy guy who wants this and that in life” but look at the way others might view you, without you even being aware of it. This is important. Too often people say “I don’t care what they think about me” yet they seem to have actions which suggests that there should be a “but” after that sentence, which proves that there is indeed a need which they yearn to fill through those very people whom they claim they don’t care about. One of my favourite mottoes is “What others think of me is none of my business.” That should be the concluding thought after you reflect on the image you project to the world.

I have been preaching the message of consciousness for so long that I didn’t even realise this crucial step. Step back, from yourself and your body (picture your spirit, like a ghost self, stepping out of your body and your physical body going about its business). Have a look at how you view yourself the way others do, which is not to say that you should change who you are. You should just live more consciously with that extra point of view in mind. This can happen through meditation. Sit back in a dark room in silence and wait. The answer, which you already know, will always come. Trust me on that one. Watch your thoughts as if they are a movie, scenes flying by. Once you reach the appropriate level of stillness, you will find the insight to healing and enlightenment.

Wow, JAWONTHEFLOOR is getting quite deep today! But we all have it inside of us. We deserve the people and experiences worthy of our time and spirits at the time for our true spirits.

Many people do not realise this, nor are they interested in tapping into their inner beings to know who they are and synch up with other spirits worthy of their time and energy. Until then they are bound for suffering and confusion and filling their voids with uselessness.

 

Thank you to the friend who gave me the conversation and inspiration for this piece.

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Gallery

My Lesson in humility (how to pray)

My Floor Jawers, if there is one thing that this year has taught me is that the incredulity of life is a funny game. Not funny ha ha, but rather funny “are you kidding me?”

I have learned many a lesson through my reading, writing and living and let me tell you something: it’s all bullshit. Shocking, I know. But here’s the clincher: nothing means anything until you know yourself.

Once again you are rolling your eyes as JAW descends into the mire of spirituality and consciousness, but it makes sense. My issue with prayer is an issue for this very reason. People assume that it is about God. It is not. If you think it is, then you are misguided. Prayer is about getting in touch with yourself and changing your own aura. When you get on your knees and humble yourself (if you are Christian, you may add “before God” to that sentence) and get to know yourself. Whoever you “pray” to is inconsequential.

This is about you.

I have spoken previously about the idea of density and striving for a free and light spirit. Remember, translucent, not transparent. You want things to pass through you, not for you to go unnoticed and let people walk right through you.

Forgive yourself. Not even others, because they don’t matter.

If you are constantly thinking and always angry, think about it for a second, then get on your knees and speak to yourself and ask yourself “What Is it?”

Whatever happened in your past, whether you were 6, 16 or 60, forgive yourself. Because forgiving others is giving them power. Forgiving them is, again, inconsequential and totally your choice.

My Floor Jawers, I am in an inspirational mood and I hope you are all lapping this up today. You are worth more than you know and don’t you forget it. Unfortunately people and circumstances have a way of getting to us.  That’s ok. As long as we have the ability to recognise this and know that it is transient.

Who says we can’t borrow from science? Think of prayer as your spiritual laxative. Many people I know oppose writing out their feelings because then “it becomes real”. Well I’ll be darned! Isn’t that the idea? When it becomes real, it is tangible and you get to tackle it head on. You can’t mould water, but you can shape ice.

So if you are reading this and you are still pretending that the world is against you and that everyone is out to get you… stop it.  Leave the dramatics to a real drama queen, like me. Please. Get in touch with who you want to be and don’t even try going for the bad version because you feel that that is what you are worth. Uncle JAW is watching and he doles out hidings good and proper.

It’s like George Eliot said: “It’s never too late to be who you might have been”. Now that is a smart man! *

* I know George Eliot was not really a man, but what were his parents thinking?!

 

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

Tag Cloud

%d bloggers like this: