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My Best Advice – Part 3

This is the final installment, for now. I hope you’ve enjoyed, and will implement. Feel free to add.

  • There is no correct way to live, but if you’re hurting someone in any way, then you’re not living correctly.
  • What’s the use of being lonely alone?
  • Freedom is the greatest gift to give.
  • Be careful with the hope you give. It is not something to be handed out flippantly. Handle hope with care.
  • Even when you think you have, remind yourself anyway to let go. Just let go. Hunched shoulders are one way that reminds us that sometimes we think we have, yet we still hold on in some form. Watch your breathing. Take note of frowns. Be aware of your hands, listen to the body.The answers are there, you just have to listen. Let go.
  • Change will always come, whether you like it or not. Don’t make it harder by resisting. (This one was inspired by my friends, especially Meryem’s “The only constant in life is change”)
  • There are literally billions of people in the world, if you are going for the wrong people, then at least admit to it, and that you have issues. You can find love and sex easily enough; it doesn’t have to be with THAT person. Don’t hide behind excuses for doing the things you do.
  • Have you ever seen a car drive with three wheels? Or no engine? Or (safely) without windows? Then why do you think you can ride smoothly through life with a broken soul? Or a damaged spirit? Or an unhealthy body? Or a muddled mind?
  • Regrets are just mistakes that haven’t yet blossomed into blessings.
  • What are you really waiting for?

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

My Best Advice – Part 2

  • Trying to change someone, even if it seems like a good idea, is arrogant and selfish. This desire is driven by your own ego. They are doing what feels good and right to them. They are honouring their spirits, while you choose to stay and change them. Your trying to force your ideas on them is not honouring them.
  • If more people realised that what they are looking for in a relationship is another version of themselves, then they would stop wasting their time and learn to be happy alone.
  • Why do you really care what others think of you?
  • Do what you want, without hurting others or yourself.
  • The bad/ugly/evil/dark is there. It always has, and always will be. Your role is to see the good and pure. It has always been there; always has, and always will be. Don’t make your world uglier/darker/more evil by inviting in anything contrary to this. Words, food and actions can make you sick and tired, or they can revitalise and enlift. Which are you going to choose?
  • Don’t let the dark in some hide the light in others.
  • Trace a problem back long enough and you will find the origin, the root. Then you can no longer make excuses for it. You can’t explain it away any longer when you know from where it came. Many of the problems in the world (very big and seemingly small) have roots which are forgotten.
  • Your silence is your greatest weapon. Too many people do not realise this. Even more people know this, and use it for destruction.

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

My Best Advice – Part 1

I’m an advice junkie. I love a good bit of inspiration. I started writing and off the top of my head, this is my incomplete collection – probably plagiarised, definitely paraphrased and sometimes entirely my own.

  • Choose.
  • If you decide that you want to change your life, do it before you take a nap.
  • There’s nothing more important than being regular.
  • It’s not about what you say, but rather about who said it first, and who said it better. Don’t keep it in. Always say what you need to, at the time, and do it well.
  • If we listened to our own advice, we wouldn’t need the advice of others.
  • We spend too much time reading the advice of others and not enough time implementing them.
  • If you want to write something powerful and affirmative, do it in pen. Even better, in thick permanent marker.
  • Too many decisions are based on fear, and driven by the ego. If you are not honest, at least try and be honest about your fears.
  • We are too complacent, yet we knock down the change makers, the revolutionaries. That’s why there are so few for every generation. We fear them. We fear fearlessness.
  • We do the wrong thing because it’s easier than doing the work and recognising our own brilliance. Being bad is easy – taking drugs, eating crap, ignoring the voices of good, apathy, are all easy to do. We are often just too lazy to make the choice, yet we sit comfortably and complain about it. This is because we hate being unhappy alone, so the easy and lazy option is to make others as unhappy as you are.

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>


1st “Real” Date

For those following the 100 Dates challenge which some of my friends and I are doing, a new rule was implemented (because we make it up as we go along). The number of people who you can ask out on a date whom you know personally may not exceed five. So I passed that number about four dates ago.

But before I get ahead of myself, a quick recap. Or lack of one. The other challengers/daters have been slacking off. Tswana Queen and Bienkie have both been quite lazy and complacent and have not upped their dating game. I’m not one to speak, seeing as I’ve had just one extra since the last post.

Back to the date. The Hippo is a friend whom I met via Facebook. An all-round good guy, I was not too worried about this one. And true to form it flowed from the start. We blazed through conversations ranging from careers (and lack of, in my case), likes and dislikes, hates and dis-hates. We had a lot in common. More than I ever expected, which is always a good thing.

However, I thought that I would present this one differently. A friend and follower suggested I do a “Do’s and Don’ts” after the dates. So I thought I would try it with this one.

Do :

–          Your research. Don’t ask someone to bowling at a mall where there is still construction and you are not sure whether the food court is fully operational. It was not. Google is your friend. Tygervalley shopping centre, I hate you.

–          Listen and allow the other person to talk. A seemingly obvious detail, but how they forget. I learned a lot by doing this!

–          Choose wisely from the menu. I thought I was being cute choosing the starters to share, then I messed the salsa and the cheese on the mushrooms was a nightmare.

–          Speak about your exes… only if you both are ok with that part of your histories. We excelled in this; discussing the fools in a candid way.

Don’t :

–          Be too generous with your sense of humour if it is quite biting and often misunderstood. I had no problems with this one, thank the gods.

–          Try to be perfect. You will seem pretentious. This was a conscious decision on my part to be myself, but also not too much as to compensate for nerves (yes there were nerves!) Although I made sure to not order any chicken. That would have been a disaster for me. I love chicken.

That’s it. Another one down and one step closer to dating glory. As you can see, the “Don’ts” are much shorter than the “Do’s.”  This should be inspiration to others to not be nervous when trying something new. I hope that everyone is at least a little inspired to meet new people and refine those social skills. I already feel like a master conversationalist, so there’s one feather in my cap. Looking forward to other challengers stepping up to the plate.

<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>

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