The talk ended with what he called the “reset” button. Yes, exactly like in video games and computers. Push a button and it all goes away and you start from scratch.
In relationships this is called forgiveness. Absolute. Overarching. Wholly (Even holy, id say).
Too many of us use this as a way of holding the past over the heads of our partners. If someone says they are sorry, it is not for you to hold on to it to later throw it back in the persons face. There should be a lightness on the shoulders as you both bring your halves to the table and eventually and peacefully… LET IT GO.
But this forgiveness that is all-encompassing must also be sincere. To say a word without appreciating its true meaning is not doing justice to you or your partner. Throw in a little love and make your partner believe that you are grateful to have them, not just in that moment, but in your life, and ask for forgiveness as you give yours.
I have forgiven in this way where it is simply about getting the uncomfortable confrontation out of the way and appeasing the other person and myself. Guess what? I cheated myself. I’m the one who ended up the loser.
Once love becomes a norm, we must accept people as they are. Gungor said that God made people a certain way (excluding cheating, lying, betrayal, etc) on purpose. So why try to change them?!
Know yourself first, and then really get to know your partner.
Bottom line: I am sorry.
<p>Author <a href=”https://plus.google.com/102128103971030481396” target=”blank” rel=”author”>Jerome Cornelius</a></p>